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But alas, his thinking (or at least saying) I was gorgeous was not enough to keep him around after three dates. Intellectually we know that it only matters that think we are attractive, and what others think isn’t our concern.
But deep down we also like to know that the person we are dating finds us attractive and is able to express that genuinely.
A lot of friends have told me they don’t, and I was very surprised.
I think for men, that is something they desperately want to hear). And even on occasion I explain it – whether it matters or does any good or not.
Some men tell you they think you are attractive on the first or other early dates. For two months I dated a man who never said he thought I was attractive.
In frustration at his aloofness, one day I said to him, “I don’t even know if you find me attractive.” He said, “I’m pursuing you, aren’t I?
” he said, “Beautiful women know they are beautiful and they hear it all the time.
It doesn’t mean anything to them because so many people tell them.
Yes, I know you can, but I’m guessing you’re as incredulous as I am about these attitudes.His actions — minimal as they were — should speak for themselves. Or he never learned to express himself to a woman in a way that would make her feel good.Upon sitting down for dinner with another man for a first encounter, he looked at me, paused, and said, “You’re .” I smiled and said, “Thank you.” That was the last time I heard it for several months. That feels good to hear.” He said, “I don’t tell beautiful women they are beautiful.” When I asked, “Why not?Basically – I do eventually acknowledge someone’s physical attractiveness then state (honestly) the following.“…Yes you are very attractive, and I often do not say anything about it – though if that faded or if something happened to change that it would not matter.
And what have you done when a man you’ve gone out with for more than a month is stingy in this area?