Not divorced but dating
Beware of going out five times in a week with someone you just met!
One date per week within a few weeks turns into two dates per week, and then three dates per week. The only way another person will change is if he/she wants to change himself. As much as you’d like it to be super efficient and speedy, it’s usually not, nor should it be.
Here are 15 essential tips to follow: Psychotic optimism is my philosophy on love, which I’m spreading to everyone who will listen.
It means this: “Love will come to me — it’s a WHEN, not an IF.
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The dating village should be filled with people who support you and will bring you up, instead of bringing you down.
Don’t rule out someone who is a little taller, shorter, skinner, heavier, a different color, older or younger than you “think” is your type.
Maybe it’s your buddies from work, school, your family, neighbors or kids.Once you have a road map of a partner that makes you happy, give attraction and chemistry a chance to develop, even if it takes five or more dates to figure it out.After you feel the chemistry, look carefully for the “interior” traits that count, like kindness, reliability, consistency, honesty and intelligence first. Is this person willing to accept you, your complexities, maybe your children? Are you on the same page with regards to finances, parenting, living situations, marriage or more kids?Sex can be great but, had too early, can cause the demise of a relationship as we are caught in a fog of oxytocin, estrogen, testosterone and dopamine.Sure, there are a few couples that had sex early on and it turned into a happy marriage, but those are pretty few and far between.
There’s no better way to get to know someone than talking and spending time together.