Dating start with goal setting
I was terrified to let my guard down, who knew what kind of feelings and emotions would take hold if I did? Not surprisingly, the relationship soon fell apart.What if he made me really like him and then broke my heart (which actually happened to me in high-school and definitely had an impact). It just wasn’t the right time and rather than letting things happen organically, D was hell bent on forcing them along on his designated path.I knew he liked me a whole lot more than I liked him, but feeling terrified by the possibility that my heart had turned to stone and that I may never be able to love again, I stayed with it, hoping that the deep feelings he felt for me would eventually be reciprocated on my end.
I fidgeted and gave him some story about how I didn’t like to use labels and the topic was dropped.I did like him and I did want to keep seeing him but the prospect of making it official just didn’t feel right at that point in the relationship and I desperately wished he would just drop the issue and let things happen rather than forcing them to.The more he pestered me, the more turned off I got and the more I resisted allowing him to brand me with a dreaded label.I’ve been there, my friends have been there, and it’s so frustrating and makes zero sense.I mean, you’re with this guy, you’re spending a lot of time together, you are in a relationship in every single way except for the fact that you’re not technically in a relationship.