Dating advice for young widows
The challenge is compounded for those in their 20s and 30s. It's not that the grief is less for older widows and widowers, but most of them have decades of fond memories.Although widowhood is considered an attendant condition of being elderly, about 55,600 people age 34 and younger were widowed in 2009 alone, according to the U. People widowed at a younger age are looking at a blank slate where future plans once existed.Also, if the person was terminally ill and that illness took a long time to run its course, the widowed person may have done a lot of grieving prior to the actual occurrence of death and might be ready to date earlier than ‘the experts’ predict.
Believing that love can happen again for them or for yourself requires strength, bravery and trial-and-error.
"Many young (widows and widowers) feel that once they have lost their spouse, they have caught their limit and are not entitled to love again or simply enjoy companionship." That's often compounded, she says, by friends and family who offer criticism instead of support.
Widower Matt Logelin, 34, who lives in Los Angeles with his daughter, Madeline, encourages young widows and widowers to be true to themselves.
The dating scene is difficult for most to navigate, but widows and widowers have even more hurdles facing them.
They have to allow themselves enough time and space to grieve, avoid comparing love interests with their late spouses, release guilt when embarking on serious new relationships, overcome disapproval from family and friends, and ultimately embrace the right to love and express feelings for two people: the deceased spouse and the romantic relationship.
The key is that every person is different, and you should take the widow/widower’s word that she/he is ready to date.” Patience is key for widow dating or widower dating.